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December 2010
4 posts
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have you ever had a song that seemed to be talking...
I would recommend all of my followers to check out the band Explosions in the Sky. Although they are an instrumental rock band, I think they speak for everyone. We can all relate to music, the universal language. It puts us all in sync, even if just for a moment. Definitely worth it.
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Anonymous asked: I've know this kid my whole life. I've had a crush on him since second grade. We're best friends. I wanna tell him I like him, a lot, but I'm afraid he won't, and I'll make our relationship weird. He has a girlfriend, but he's telling me that he doesn't feel anything for her anymore. Help !
biggest turn on? biggest turn off? even not in...
My biggest “turn on” would have to be someone that is driven. My biggest “turn off” is someone that is lazy. I don’t have many requirements for people that I associate with, but I really value the drive to do great things.
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What are you thankful for?
I am thankful for my family, friends, and academic success. I recently got admitted into the University of Central Florida to study Psychology and Pre-Medicine and I am very excited for that. What are you thankful for?
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November 2010
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Anonymous asked: This boy I like is around 3 years older than I am. We've kissed before, but he doesn't want a relationship. I've tried to get over him, but every time I speak to him, he just reels me back in. Should I ignore him? Or should I keep talking to him, and wait for him to like me?
October 2010
3 posts
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Addiction.
Addictions can be tricky and at the end of the day it’s just a matter of definition. No one “has” an addiction like something we can see. It’s a set of behaviors that has to fall inside of a model that we create. 1. It is a deviant from the population. 2. The behavior is maladaptive. 3. It causes stress for the patient. People can be addicted to watching TV, religion,...
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cont. To be with another girl and they ended up...
Forget about him. Sometimes people just don’t know what they want, there’s nothing you can do about it. Find someone that makes you happy and when you think of him and the past, try to remember the good times.
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I think i have a crush on my best friend. we held...
You should never try to suppress feelings. You may realize that the relationship isn’t appropriate and try for someone else, but if your feelings are too strong you should be honest and open with her about how you feel.
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September 2010
15 posts
Anonymous asked: what's your gpa?
lauraspie asked: :] knock knock.
overflown asked: Just wanted to say thanks for the help you gave me once upon a time
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If you yourself have cheated on your relationship...
This is a problem because the person that cheated is accepting that they deserve to be treated like shit. It is understandable feel angry if the person cheated on you, but once you forgive that person you need to stick to your word. Also, if the person that cheated promises not to again, they should stick to theirs. Forgiveness doesn’t mean making the other person feel bad. The goal is to be...
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I keep having dreams about cutting my arms open......
Dream interpretation doesn’t hold much scientific validity. It’s not like people think where dreams have common symbols or give us some deep meaning to be interpreted by a psychoanalysis. The current psychological view on dreams is that they’re only as important as you value them. They allow our minds to creatively solve problems, imagine things that can’t happen in...
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Do you feel that people take you seriously, or do...
The people I see day-to-day mostly know that I sometimes make fun of my blog. How egotistical would it be for me to take my words so seriously? Honestly, I’m not a mental health God yet so most of the time what I say should be taken with a grain of salt. I like to think that what I write helps some people though, at least those that feel like no one will listen to them.
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do you know what bmi is considered "anorexic"
Anorexia nervosa isn’t diagnosed based on BMI. That being said, most people diagnosed are underweight which is about 18.5 or less. Keep in mind that BMI charts are very tricky, some consider more factors than others. A simple BMI only required height, age, and weight. Some take into consideration ethnicity, location, family history, ect. Anorexia nervosa is a multifaceted disorder that can...
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i just wanted to say thanks for helping me out...
Thank you so much, my advice is a gift though so I’d prefer if you IM me. WB2498
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Listen, I'm not trying to be one of that 95% that...
Sometimes it’s okay to have fun, I’ll probably still answer questions but at times it gets ridiculous.
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Anonymous asked: ive been dating this guy for 3 years now. the only problem is long dist. according to him it is the strongest relationship he has ever had. in the periods that we do not see eachother i act and want to be single. i go out meet new guys hook up and have sex. ive broken up with him but he always comes back or i do. and when i do he says i treat him bad and make him suffer. ive decided for sure that...
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What is your view on introversion? Do you think...
To explain nurture vs nurture, I always use the alcoholism example. There is a strong correlation between genetics and alcoholism, but if there is no alcohol in the environment, the individual can never possibly grow up to be an alcoholic. As with introversion, nature and nurture must come together to form this trait. I think personality is flexible, in some instances we are all introverted and in...
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I have such strong feelings for a guy that I met a...
Saying “we need to talk” is a good way to get the message across of severity, importance, and seriousness which I’m sure relate to how you feel. It’s best to confront these things head on and be as clear and expressive as you can be with him. Don’t go overboard and scare him away, but you have to let him know how you feel.
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So you're saying there's something wrong with me...
The only evidence I have that it’s bad for you is that it’s a deviance from the norm. I don’t know if not feeling those emotions are maladaptive for you or if they’re personally distressing. If so, then it’s considered a mental illness. Chronic feelings of sadness, anxiety, and guilt relate to some of Eriksons stages that may not have been worked out. Specifically,...
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I never feel anger jealousy agression or rage...
Never feeling a range of emotions is never a good thing, especially primitive ones but it is possible.
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Whats your email? Im in desperate need of help!...
You can AIM me. My screen name is WB2498.
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August 2010
31 posts
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ITS ALL FEAR AND LOVE.
Not fear…aggression! Anger! Jealousy! Rage! The brutal realities of a young, inquisitive mind facing the harsh realities of living in a scarce world that could never possibly satisfy every want with the ever impending hand of death drawing nearer, slowly drawing every last breath out of us.
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What do you think is the strongest human emotion?
On one end of the spectrum we have aggression and on the other we have lust and that is basically what drives man. So pure anger, rage, or the will to survive is probably the most powerful and is second, if not mirrored, by the urge to have sex or become romantically involved. A humanist would probably tell you love is the most powerful positive emotion, and the anger of not being loved in return...
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thank you :D i really appreciate your advice! if i...
Haha you’re very welcome. A hug or a really cool high five would both be appreciated!
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3 I have big feelings for this guy still, how do I...
Rape is such a terrible thing to happen to someone, and I’m so sorry that you have to carry that baggage everyday. You need to understand that trust is an important thing, and there are people out there who you can trust. It takes a strong person, and I think this guy you were talking to realized that he doesn’t have the strength to endure your struggle with you. That’s part of a...
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3 I have big feelings for this guy still, how do I...
Rape is such a terrible thing to happen to someone, and I’m so sorry that you have to carry that baggage everyday. You need to understand that trust is an important thing, and there are people out there who you can trust. It takes a strong person, and I think this guy you were talking to realized that he doesn’t have the strength to endure your struggle with you. That’s part of a...
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My crush told me he doesn't like me. I was...
Let him know that you’re going to need some time and space if he really wants things to be over between the two of you. Hopefully, he’ll understand.
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I am EXTREMELY shy to the point where I hate...
Behavior modification. Basically, coming out of your shell in constructive environments. Enroll for a speech class, hopefully it’ll give ya a bit of confidence :)
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If you really knew me...
What would it be like if I really knew you?
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can we be friends?
Of course we can be friends, and if you want to be my friend, then this process will go even quicker lol Just send me an IM at WB2498 :)
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why do you tell everyone that they need therapy?
Because if I gave them advice on things that are signs of mental disorders, I would be responsible for their health and I don’t have the qualifications. Above all else, it could lead to legal problems and most mental struggles could be solved with therapy.
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When it comes to self harm, how deep is considered...
Anything done to the body with the intention of harm is too much. You need to see a therapist, I’m not certified to advise you any further.
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What's your MBTI type?
The MBTI “type” is a dated and crude method of assessing personality that lacks validity testing and empirical support and is generally not used by therapists, espcially similar Jungian tests. When assessing personality, I prefer the NEO-PI-R. With that test, my therapist rated me as normal in most traits but lacking a certain degree of empathy when compared to most people. I have a...
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How do you get rid of jealousy?
Cognitive-behavioral therapy is the best way to go. Basically, learning new behaviors and ways of thinking that cannot also exist with your current tendencies. A big part of therapy would be identifying the root of the problem and resolving those issues. Therapy isn’t like the movies where a psychotherapist will retrieve some repressed memory and then there’s a major depressive episode...
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I met a boy over the summer new to my school...
Don’t be in a hurry to rush things, try to see everything in a refreshing break from the stressful everyday routine. Don’t take things too seriously, keep it on a casual level. I mean, you’re not looking for a husband for Christ sake. Just someone to take you to the sock hop, or maybe to get a soda pop. Start off with those intentions and you won’t get let down if things...
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I've fallen in love with this girl I've just met....
I’m glad you feel such intense positive emotions, but you have to let logic have its ruling as well. Don’t rush anything no matter how badly you may want to. The slower you take things, the longer the relationship will last and getting to know each other better is a great thing. The relationship has to be balanced so always keep up good communication to make sure the two of you are on...
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What can you say about people who always gets...
Usually it stems from faulty learning, not extreme insecurities like most pop-psychologists would agree. Most people pick up this trait from one or more of their parents. That is why people can be jealous and still have some form of confidence, some are even proud of that trait because they feel it at least gives them an identity. But it really doesn’t, what it gives them is identity...
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what to do about this, or why his advances just...
At the root of it all, you know what it is about him that makes you not compelled to him. Maybe if you don’t want to admit whatever that is to yourself, your friends may give you some insight. Often, our friends know our taste when our self-acceptance blocks away some ideas. Maybe you’re still not over your ex but won’t admit it to yourself. Maybe you think he’s a loser for...
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I'm going into high school. I have no friends,...
No one likes anyone that doesn’t have confidence. Try not to put yourself down as much and focus on the positives of your personality. I’m sure you’ll find one or several other people with similar interests as long as you express them. And if you like different things than everyone else, then enjoy your individuality.
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I've been dating this guy for about 3 weeks now. I...
Love should always be balanced. My advice is that you should tell him how you want the relationship to, which sounds to be more casual than serious and committed. Depending on your age, your view may be more healthy than what the person you’re with wants. Always strive to keep the relationship healthy and balanced.
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i don't fit in anywhere i am. I always feel left...
I don’t know how old you are, but you may not always feel this way. In college, you will have classes with people that care about the same things that you do. And there will be A LOT of people that are just like you, because by telling everyone that they’re special and different, American education institutions are really just isolating us. What we need to realize is how we really are...
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I feel very confused about this boy. He likes me,...
Some people may not be comfortable with commitment, and it’s not your job to force him to be okay with those things. All you can do is either decide to wait for him to get over his hang ups, try to ease the process, or go for someone more readily available. He may never get over his issues, but you have to let him know how you feel and what you want before you decide which course to take.
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How do you feel about couples saying I love you...
Saying “I love you” can be a huge step for some people, and a very common thing for others. Of course, there are many variations on those which we love; we love sisters, teachers, parents, and those that we date all very differently. Usually it’s when people violate those relationships that trust issues evolve; when we feel used for our love, or when our love isn’t...
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ive needed yo help
If you need help and don’t feel comfortable posting it on here, you can IM me on AIM at anytime :) WB2498 is my screen name
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[2] want to take one for the team and talk to her...
You should let her know how you feel, but also keep your emotions in check. You don’t want to “tell her off” or try to upset her through insults, that’ll just make matters worse. Better yet, try to water down what you want to say with what you should say without jeopardizing getting how you feel across. You have to try your best to balance logic and emotions on this one and...
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[2] want to take one for the team and talk to her...
You should let her know how you feel, but also keep your emotions in check. You don’t want to “tell her off” or try to upset her through insults, that’ll just make matters worse. Better yet, try to water down what you want to say with what you should say without jeopardizing getting how you feel across. You have to try your best to balance logic and emotions on this one and...